Dating an alcoholic signs
It's best to sit down with her the day after a drinking or drug-related incident when she's hungover and remorseful or soon after, while it's still fresh in her mind.
If you can't get to her right away, that's okay too, since you're not talking about an isolated incident.
Though legal, alcohol is a drug and for someone with the disease of addiction, it is just as devastating.
In fact, many health officials believe it is the most abused drug in America.
Also women metabolize alcohol differently than men.
For many women, 2 drinks a day, or 14 drinks a week, can indicate a serious problem.
It doesn't matter if an alcoholic drinks wine, "light" beer or scotch. If your friend's drinking or drug use has gone on for some time, her family may not have noticed that it's gotten worse -- or they may have learned to ignore it to protect themselves.
One of the tragedies of alcoholism and drug abuse is the incredible adjustments family members make to cope with this disease.
Your friend can also have the opposite reaction, and you could lose the friendship.
This increased tolerance is also a clear symptom of alcoholism.
It's not the amount of alcohol or drugs that matters; it's whether her drinking or drug use is causing her problems -- with family, friends, career, finances or legal matters.
But if your friend continues to abuse alcohol and other drugs, you'll probably lose that friendship anyway.
If she does react badly, keep in mind that you have planted a seed of recovery that may blossom at a later date, and she will then be grateful to you for saving her life.