Dating someone with herpes simplex
Many people who find out they’re HSV feel like their dating and/or sex life is over. Obviously, since most of the population has it, people are generally doing just fine.
This initial reaction is common, yet exceedingly inaccurate. It’s pure emotion speaking, generated from the experience of shock—nothing more. However, this page will be dedicated to people who are HSV , aware of their status, and have taken the time to write something about their situation on an online herpes message board or Website.
You want to make it clear: this is a fact about you, and it’s something you have under total control. You can literally have this conversation after dinner or a movie while walking, so as not to make the situation feel too pressurized.
And while it’s not quite “Please pass the salt”, you can probably cover what you need to cover in just a few minutes, as opposed to a two-hour herpes summit. You have a handle on the disease and outbreaks are rare.
Major bulletpoints: You trust him and feel he needs the truth if the relationship is to progress. He will not catch it since you take drugs and carefully monitor the situation.
He can ask you questions, research it, digest it, but understand that it’s not a big deal.
One of the most difficult things I had to do was call former boyfriends I may have exposed (think it was dormant in my system for quite sometime, I honestly did not know). I think all the readers should take a second to put themselves in your shoes for a moment. That’s 50 MILLION people, a majority of whom don’t even know they’re infected.
1/6 of the country has it and most don’t even know.
Again, I’m no expert, but I coached one client through this tricky process.
I dealt with feeling angry, feeling disgusting, feeling heartbroken, feeling absolutely terrible...
all of the awful things that you might also be going through.
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All of those things might be sensitive and relevant, but they don’t have to be dealbreaker-type issues if dealt with effectively.