Male ideas on courtshipdating
However, the amazing number of Christians I find praising this blog has, I feel, forced me to point out what I see as a number of fundamental flaws.
Link to the blog article I refer to: The blog article is authored by Thomas Umstattd Jr., the founder of Practical
Indeed, the Bible does not set forth a specific pattern for courtship, but there are a number of Biblical principles that we must take into consideration.
I have never pressed my conclusions on others, nor am I claiming to have all the answers.
I have three adult sons, and daughters who are 17 & 18, so I’ve had to give the subject a lot of thought.
I believe there are also a number of Biblical principles that he does not take into consideration, and some of his suggestions are directly contrary to those principles.I do not know what specific courtship literature he was responding to, but I have a hard time believing that anyone is recommending that the proper way to find a spouse is for a young man to find a woman who it is unbiblical for him to marry, and then insist that his parents arrange a marriage with her!So I have come to my current views on courtship/dating, not by following any model proposed by a group on either side, but rather by my own meditations upon the word of God.A marriage is kept from failure by both spouses loving Christ more than each other, loving one another more than themselves, and living according to the commands of scripture.No amount of “doing things right” beforehand, whether that be courtship or dating, can ever ensure a marriage that endures unless both parties are determined to do things right for the rest of their lives together.