So youre dating my ex
But let’s say that you were satisfying his every need.Why would he be having these sexy, flirtatious conversations with these other women?But I can’t think of a time where the insecurity of one partner inspired a change in the other partner.Especially when the insecure partner isn’t willing to walk away regardless of whether or not they get what they want.And now, a little over a year into the relationship you’re disappointed that he’s still the same guy… People do this all the time, but it doesn’t make it right or sane.The fact is, this whole pattern of people projecting a fantasy version of someone onto the actual person is ludicrous.
When you can recognize what he “gets” from his behavior and you can truly understand him as a man, you might not take his actions personally anymore.
Most aren’t even consciously aware of those feelings.
But if you can see past your own hurts and desires, you’ll see men everywhere trying to fill emotional voids through their actions and achievements.
There are times where one person might inspire change in another person, but it’s because the other person wanted the change themselves as well.
There are times where one person will get their act together because they’re afraid to lose something good or they’re determined to win something good.