What is the difference between christian courtship and dating
Part of discerning the will of God is judging whether or not the other person meets the biblical criteria and qualifications of being a good mate, being able to raise children, and being a family leader. Based on 1 Thessalonians we should be attracted to another person in three areas: physically, emotionally, and intellectually & spiritually (this includes personality).
That is to say, a person needs to meet the criteria in each of these three areas.
Couples should especially study biblical love as found in 1 Corinthians 13 and understand that it is the commitment that arises out of covenant that will sustain their marriage–not merely the feeling of love.
For example, it is a huge mistake to marry a person because they are strong spiritually when not attracted to them physically.
Or, it is a mistake to marry a person for their personality when their spiritual life is a mess, etc.
This is so the focus of the first few years of marriage is on building the relationship rather than on the distractions that come from financial stress, education, and other things that can destroy a relationship.(Although many make a good case for people to get married young so they can mature emotionally together) Going into debt and spending a lot of money on the wedding ceremony is not advised.
Monies should be channeled for life together more than on the one-time wedding ceremony. Practical and Biblical Understanding of Courtship Courtship and dating are some of the least discussed topics in the church.